Goodbyes are Hard

Goodbyes are Hard. And we find ourselves in a season of goodbyes. Maybe you, too, are in a season of goodbyes? Maybe it’s the last day of school or you just recently graduated? Perhaps you are moving soon. Have you recently lost a loved one or a beloved pet? Maybe you are taking a trip somewhere. Life always brings goodbyes and whether you’re a four year old sad to leave a playdate with friends or whether you’re holding the hand of your grandfather as he passes away… goodbyes are HARD!

And that’s okay!

So here we are… learning to say goodbye. Taking pictures of all the moments and all the friends! Teaching our children (and ourselves) that it’s okay to be sad and excited at the same time. Reminding ourselves to enjoy each moment, to treasure these relationships as they are now, and appreciate the places while we’re still here. And ultimately trusting God is good and the byes are worth it. For us, the goodbyes have begun. Sometimes it’s just “see ya later” but often it’s truly goodbye. The girls and I have loved attending Bible Study Fellowship for the last two years and last week we said goodbye. Goodbye to the sweet community of believers who encourage us, teach us, love us and cherish us! Witnessing these ladies worship the Lord, study His Word and love our family has been such a joy and encouragement to us! Although we might not return to this gathering, this space, we are eager to reunite with these ladies throughout the years and ultimately in our final destination of worship before the Lord! These people have blessed Brett’s life and in turn our whole family. Day after day, as he faithfully worked late hours these individuals were there with him in the grind of it all. Giving advice, sharing laughs, and celebrating all the additions to our family. Thank you to each of you for inspiring Brett and creating an enjoyable work environment! We have been blessed by you!And then there’s this house… We will take with us the memories made and lessons learned. We’ll leave behind the work endured and the stuff accumulated. We’ll say goodbye to the yard we enjoyed for hours on end. We’ll say goodbye to the rocking chair that comforted us all. But the laughter will ring in our ears for years, the relationships with neighbors will continue to enrich our lives, and the love that made this house a home will endure beyond our lifetimes. We are grateful for an opportunity to pause and reflect… goodbyes give you that space.IMG_8205 I know there are more to come. Goodbye to our favorite spots in Kansas City. Goodbye to regularly worshipping with our church. Goodbye to playdates and dinners with friends. Goodbye to Target, Starbucks, and Chick-fil-a. But thankfully the most important goodbyes are really just “see ya later.” To our friends and family it will just be  “talk to you soon” and “see ya later.” The Lord is gracious to us in providing technology that allows these relationships to continue. Will they take work? Yes! Will it be worth it? Of course! We are eager to have each of you walk alongside us and we are delighted to walk alongside you. Thank you for praying, for serving, for giving, and for living life with us.

Ultimately goodbyes remind us of the temporary status of our lives. We are but grass that withers, but our God remains forever. He is faithful and his love never fails. He is creator and ruler over all. May we remember that goodbyes are temporary but worship of the Lord is eternal. And for those who are Christians, even earthly goodbyes are eternal “see ya laters” as we will be reunited in heaven as we worship our King forever. A read through Psalm 84 this morning resonated well in the midst of all these goodbyes… “Better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere,” Psalm 84:10. Praise the Lord for an eternal hope!

For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust. The life of mortals is like grass, they flourish like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more. But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children—with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts. The Lord has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all.      ~Psalm 103:11-19~


4 thoughts on “Goodbyes are Hard

  1. Alyson,

    This is written beautifully. You have a gift. Thanks for sharing this journey with us. We love you! Rachel

    P.S. I’m still so happy about yesterday. I love that Dan and Brett planned that for us! It made me so happy.


  2. Yes. Goodbyes are so hard for me… never been okay with them….so love the encouragement that we find in Scripture!… and also the encouragement Signe shared with me tonight that, “Its okay, mom, now we have a good reason to travel to Europe.” 😉


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